It gave me a lot of pleasure and pride that 90 percent of the crew for ‘Monsoon Wedding,’ and most of my film, are women. We get the work done, you know, much lesser play of ego… And I really believe in harmony, I believe in working in a spirit of egolessness and that the film is bigger than all of us.
I felt very unstressed on my wedding day. I’m very grateful for that… spending the day on my own, being super quiet and happy and just puttering around doing my own thing.
For a girl, the wedding is when you’re married. For a guy, it’s when you get engaged. It takes a real aggressive human being to back out between the ring and the wedding.
I wanted to define the vocabulary of a wedding both visually and intellectually. The book is about more than weddings or wedding dresses. It’s a metaphor for women’s lives, their creativity.