I never had a speech from my father ‘this is what you must do or shouldn’t do’ but I just learned to be led by example. My father wasn’t perfect.
I’m just as insufferable and useless as every other dad is. The dynamic never changes, no matter what you do for a living.
I used to say, ‘Man, I think I’d be a really good dad. I’ll be a great provider. I’m funny I’ll go on trips with them – I’ll do all sorts of stuff.’ But the momming? I’m not made for that. I have a really good mom I know what she put into it.
As a father now, I wouldn’t do what my dad did, because it left me feeling emotionally unstable as a kid. But he didn’t do the things he did out of selfishness or malice.